Feelings of Resistance – What do they tell you?

I have been exploring feeling resistant a lot lately, it is such an interesting subject and quite confronting and liberating, especially when you get really real and honest with yourself.  What is feeling resistance?  A dictionary gives a definition of ‘withstand the action or effect of…’  ‘combat’  ‘hold out against’.   So I guess it follows then emotional resistance means not being willing to feel the emotions I am feeling.

The main thing I have noticed is – fear seems to be behind a lot of my resistance.  Like fear of the unknown, fear of feeling I have to do something I don’t want to, fear of not knowing what to do, fear of looking stupid, fear of what others will think of me and most of all fear of being caught out in a lie. We all lie in varying degrees. If you believe you don’t lie, you might want to ask yourself “have I ever told someone I paid so much for something when I paid more” or about what you ate or just by not saying something when you know you could have or pretending you have done something when you haven’t.  It is amazing how we deceive ourselves about our own honesty.  The worst thing about deceiving ourselves is, in my experience, we end up justifying everything we do and say, blame and criticise others and avoid people you have lied to.

Resisting a feeling also means I am afraid to feel what is there and until I am willing to feel the feelings, they will continue until I do.  There is an old saying “What you resist persists”.  I had a light-bulb moment recently around wanting to lose weight and how long I have been wanting it but the wanting is resisting what is, you know not accepting it.  I have been resisting feelings of not measuring up.  It was so plain and simple and when I really allowed myself to feel it I was able to see what has been holding me back for so long.  It is such a trap, resisting feeling.  The most amazing thing about feeling what I am feeling is, it opens up other possibilities.

I wonder how much the world would change if we all stopped resisting our feelings, comparing ourselves and started to be kind, to ourselves and to everyone else.   I can remember being told not to cry or to suck it up and get on with it.  I wonder what would have happened if I had just allowed myself to cry, or be upset, rather than not wanting to feel as if I would be in trouble.  I wonder how much freedom it would give all of us to allow ourselves to feel.  Could you imagine it?  Would feeling our feelings create a world where there would be no need to lie and protect ourselves or our belongings.

I have so much gratitude to The Avatar® Course for allowing me to explore my consciousness.🙏     I have re-discovered how to feel again, become much more honest with myself and naturally with others and, learnt how to live life with deliberateness instead of being on default.  The most important aspect of the course for me, has been the ability to take full responsibility for what I think, feel and do. It is totally liberating. 💕

With absolute gratitude I invite you to change your life too.  Contact me to arrange a free information session, you won’t regret it.

With appreciation

Kerry